When Does Marriage Occur


At what moment does the union of a man, and a woman become one in holy matrimony? For hundreds of years, there are ceremonies before witnesses. Just before this marriage ceremony ends, the individual presiding will announce, “I now pronounce you husband and wife.” It is at this moment that society recognizes the young couple as married. So, the question is raised, “At what moment does the union take place?” When are the man and the woman indeed married before God?

The Marriage Before God

In Genesis 2:23, it says,

23 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib that He had taken from the man and brought her to the man. The man said, “This is currently now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; She is now called, woman because God took her out of Man.” For this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

The marriage between a man and a woman is and always has been in the domain of God, not man. It was God who brought the woman to Adam, and Adam named her Eve. The marriage ceremony was on earth, yet presided over by God Himself with no fanfare as we have today.

The Fanfare

Today there is much adulation with a banquet, drinking, music, and dancing, all in it of itself nothing wrong. Even Jesus and His disciples went to a wedding feast that had these elements in it. That is not the point. So, when does this union between a man and a woman take Place?

Nevertheless, if one looks at the Biblical record, one can see something entirely different than we have today. When God brought Eve to Adam, they became husband and wife immediately. There was no fanfare. God issued only one command, “be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth.”

In Genesis 1:28, it says,

28 God blessed them, and God said to them, be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth, and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the sky and over every living thing that moves on the earth.

The True Union of Marriage

Adam and Eve did not possess a marriage license given to them by the county courthouse. Their union in marriage was then as today between the individuals and God alone, not the government.

The only witness to this joining of Adam and Eve was God the Father, and all the heavenly hosts. Adam and Eve did not have to venture to the county courthouse in seeking a marriage license. It was a wedding performed by God, bringing Adam and Eve together. Marriage is the same today; God is the joining factor, not a pastor or the Justice of the Peace.

Marriage happens when two hearts, one man, and one woman give their heart to the other for life before God. It is at this moment that they become one, not in the sexual union.

In Matthew 1:18-20, it says,

18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph; before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. 19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily. 20 But while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost.

Joseph and Mary are married even before their sexual union. People today seem to believe that the marriage is only consummated in a biological union. “And Joseph her husband,” show this natural sexual union is not part of the matrimonial union. Marriage is the giving of one man to one woman for life.

Marriage is for Life

Marriage is for life, yet one will say, “What about divorce,” again, let us look at what the scriptures say.

In Matthew 19:3-9, it says,

3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder. 7 They say unto him, why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8 He said unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning, it was not so. 9 And I say unto you; whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoso marries her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Once again, we read, it is God that is doing the joining; not a man or the government, “Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate.” The only option for a divorce is based on the immorality of an individual. Divorce otherwise is not an option, but God will forgive in all cases if one only asks.

In 1 John 1:9-10, it says,

9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.

In Psalm 103:12-14, it says,

12 As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us. 13 Just as a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him. 14 For He Himself knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust.

When God forgives, He forgives 100% and not as man does.

Scripture calls Joseph and Mary husband and wife. Yet, they are not married according to Jewish custom, and law? They are married before God, or He would not have chosen Mary to be the mother of Jesus.

In Matthew 1:19, it says,

19 Moreover, Joseph, her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned to send her away secretly.

A woman back in that era would have been shunned if she was pregnant out of wedlock.

According to Jewish customs, they were just pledged to each other, yet a betrothal was a marriage without the ceremony. One sees that Joseph loved Mary very much, but did not want to go through with the ceremony of the wedding, why? Joseph thought that Mary was unclean because she was pregnant. However, an angel of God spoke to him in a dream and said everything is fine and told Joseph to take Mary as his wife. Just simply put before the Angel of God spoke to him; he was contemplating a divorce, but God stopped him; Joseph and Mary were, in fact, married. So, Joseph would have to divorce Mary, as he, “planned to send her away secretly.”

In Matthew 1:20-25, it says,

20 But when he had considered this, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife; for the Child who has been conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. 21 “She will bear a Son; and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.” 22 Now all this took place to fulfill what was spoken by the Lord through the prophet: 23 “BEHOLD, THE VIRGIN SHALL BE WITH CHILD AND SHALL BEAR A SON, AND THEY SHALL CALL HIS NAME IMMANUEL,” which translated means, “GOD WITH US.” 24 And Joseph awoke from his sleep and did as the angel of the Lord commanded him, and took Mary as his wife, 25 but kept her a virgin until she gave birth to a Son; and he called His name Jesus.

Joseph took Mary immediately as his wife, and not be his wife, for she was, in fact, his wife already and all this with no pomp and ceremony recorded in scripture. When a man and a woman commit to each other, it is at that moment; they become husband and wife before the creator God. The marriage ceremony is only for the family and friends of the couple.


When a man and a woman make such a commitment to each other, they must keep in mind that they have married each other before God. Now if they decide to break this relationship, then you are divorcing each other. So, do not commit this sin and work out your problem and God will reward you for this. You are now married before God because of your commitment to each other. Remember the institution of marriage is from God, and the pomp and ceremony of this wedding come from men.

It is God who presides over the marriage union between one man and one woman only. Do not let the government fool you that have no right to the wedding; only God has the authority over the joining of the man and the woman.

Please, do not take this marriage commitment to each other lightly

Sola Scriptura– By Scripture Alone

Sola Fide– By Faith Alone

Sola Gratia– By Grace Alone

Solus Christus– By Christ Alone

Soli Deo Gloria– Glory to God Alone

Copyright Dr. George L Gallant, ©2017

All quotes are from the:

New American Standard Bible, ©1995, Or King James 1611


About Dr. George Gallant

I have had the opportunity to work in many fields in my life, and excelled in all of them. I started as a mechanic in the Army then went to the Infantry in Vietnam. After returning to America, I worked as a mechanic for a few more years off and on until I found a position as a Dialysis Technician until I became a Chief specialist in a major Boston hospital. In 1981, I became a Police Office in a small town in Northeast Georgia and continued to work with law-enforcement for seven years. I also preached the Word of God in the Toccoa community and wished that I could have found a church that would have taken me on to preach every week. In 1993, I became a computer programmer for many years and loved that job much. In 2003, my wife came down with the worst breast cancer one could get, so I retired and took care of her until her passing in 2006. Then in 2007, I moved to China and started teaching both verbal English and American History to high-school students; this by far was the best job I ever had. Sola Scriptura– By Scripture alone Sola Fide– By Faith alone Sola Gratia– By Grace alone Solus Christus– By Christ alone Soli Deo Gloria– Glory to God alone
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2 Responses to When Does Marriage Occur

  1. Me and my wife discussed this years ago but we didn’t have the scriptures to expound on. Thanks for the insight.


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