Several Wives & Adultery


Introduction

Do those individuals who get divorced and remarried live in the perpetual sin of adultery? What does the Scripture say on this so-called issue of chronic infidelity as sometimes portrayed and perpetuated by the Church as a reality? Should these individuals get divorced again?

Old Testament Heroes

Several Old Testament figures had many wives, King David, King Solomon, Joseph, and Jacob. However, Scripture teaches that man was to have one wife at a time if he were a leader.

1 Timothy 3:2, says,

2 An overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife (NASB).

The example is God, bringing to Adam one woman, Eve. So, the question is, did these men of old live in perpetual sin, no? However, what we see from multiple wives is a never-ending problem that plagued their lives. One wife wants this, another wife wanting something else, and it went on and on to the point of ad nauseam, this was not God’s plan, for the family, for there is no unity with multiple wives, just disunity.

Genesis 2:18, says,

18 Then the LORD God said, it is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him (NASB).

Genesis 2:21-24, says,

21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed the flesh at that place.

22 Thus, God created the woman from the rib removed from the man and then brought her to the man.

23 The man said she is now of my bones and flesh of my flesh. I shall call her Woman; because God took her from Man.

24, Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother, and united to his wife, and they shall become one flesh (NASB).

One can make a point that God took one rib, and this one rib could represent one woman at a time. Unity within marriage is with one man and one woman together as husband and wife. Unity above everything in Marriage is God’s goal.

The Sin of Adultery

Matthew 19:9, says,

9 And I tell you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery (NASB).

If a spouse is immoral and divorced his or her spouse, is not the innocent party allowed to remarry without consequences of adultery attached to them? If yes, then why does the Church hold them back? Pastors who divorced and being the innocent party must promise never to remarry so they can remain in the pulpit why?

One can wonder why the Church puts men in such a circumstance as this to burn in lust. Is it to see them fail and then the Church can say, it is because of your divorce why you have failed? One could without effort, assume that is the Church’s desire.

An individual was a guest speaker at one Fellowship, when he and the head deacon were talking, and he said, to even have a divorced person in the pulpit contaminates it. This so-called contamination says the individual’s salvation experience means nothing, and that God has not the ability to forgive them without reservation.

The Question Is

Why is it so easy for the Fellowship to forgive a murderer, a thief, a liar, a rapist or any other sin, but has a difficult time forgiving someone divorced and remarried? If an individual commits homicide, they will always be a murderer; this will not change even if they never commit this crime again. It is the same with any sin against God; there are no exceptions. No person is without sin, yet each sin has a name, and that is what the individual is for the rest of their lives.

Arrogance in the Leadership

An example of this arrogance is the rudeness by many leaders of the Baptists Fellowship towards the Mormons, at their Annual Convention in Utah several years ago; this is the same egotism of the Jewish Pharisees at the time of Jesus. They may attempt to deny this, but the proof is in the records if one but looks.

Luke 18:10-14, says,

10 Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector.

11 The Pharisee stood and was praying this to himself: God, I thank You I am not as other people: swindlers, unjust, adulterers, or even this tax collector.

12 I fast twice a week; I pay tithes of everything I get.

13 But the tax collector, standing a distance away, was even unwilling to lift his eyes to heaven, but was beating his breast, saying, God, be merciful!

14 I tell you, this man went to his house justified instead of the other; for everyone who exalts himself is humbled, but I exalt the humble (NASB).

Visualize someone says to you, “you cannot have God’s best,” because of divorce and remarriage, think of the mental anguish you go through. If this was true, then God does not forgive and forget what we have done, and the blood of Jesus was for nothing. This arrogant behavior by the leadership has kept many a good man from doing God’s will. I tell you this that every gift one receives from God is the BEST He gives.

James 1:16-17, says,

16 Let no one deceive, my beloved brethren.

17 Every good thing given, and every perfect gift is from above, comes from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow (NASB).

God gives you His absolute best for you. The Church in America is full of the egotist who, call themselves Christians or leaders. Who, control the Church with an iron-fisted dictatorship, and this is one of the primary reasons for the weakness in the Church today? However, no one will voice this opinion fearing being called a heretic.

God and Forgiveness

When one confesses his or her sin, God has forgiven and has forgotten them.

Psalm 103:11-14, says,

11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him.

12 As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions from us.

13 Just as a father has compassion on his children, So the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.

14 He knows our frame; He is mindful that we are but dust (NASB).

1 John 1:9, says,

9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from unrighteousness (NASB).

Therefore, God says He will remove our sins if we but ask Him. The real question, who do these leaders think they are when they block a man from serving God in the Pulpit or a woman serving as a Sunday school teacher when they are 100% forgiven by God.

Conclusion

To serve God, one must seek forgiveness and not live in sin. The Church should not rule that a person is living in an adulterous state if they remarried because they may have asked for forgiveness from God. There is no Biblical evidence to support this beyond any reasonable question that a divorced person is ineligible, to preach the Gospel. Please do not use, First Timothy as a proof text as I have shown why there should be one wife at a time. This book says nothing to divorce and remarriage and serving God.

1 Timothy 3:2, says,

2 An overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife (NASB).

The Scripture here is referring to one wife at a time. A pastor who remarries after his wife dies can no longer be a preacher according to many fellowships. That is if you follow their interpretations of Scripture.

Sola Scriptura–By Scripture Alone

Sola Fide–By Faith Alone

Sola Gratia–By Grace Alone

Solus Christus–By Christ Alone

Soli Deo Gloria–Glory to God Alone

Copyright Dr. George L Gallant, ©2019

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About Dr. George Gallant

I have had the opportunity to work in many fields in my life, and excelled in all of them. I started as a mechanic in the Army then went to the Infantry in Vietnam. After returning to America, I worked as a mechanic for a few more years off and on until I found a position as a Dialysis Technician until I became a Chief specialist in a major Boston hospital. In 1981, I became a Police Office in a small town in Northeast Georgia and continued to work with law-enforcement for seven years. I also preached the Word of God in the Toccoa community and wished that I could have found a church that would have taken me on to preach every week. In 1993, I became a computer programmer for many years and loved that job much. In 2003, my wife came down with the worst breast cancer one could get, so I retired and took care of her until her passing in 2006. Then in 2007, I moved to China and started teaching both verbal English and American History to high-school students; this by far was the best job I ever had. Sola Scriptura– By Scripture alone Sola Fide– By Faith alone Sola Gratia– By Grace alone Solus Christus– By Christ alone Soli Deo Gloria– Glory to God alone
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